5 MUST DO'S to start Wedding Planning #weddingsinmay

Its WEDDING SEASON!  Are you excited ?

May , June  & July are big wedding months, I mean its hard to see why not.  These months are filled with beautiful weather, May I feel is the best and probably the most popular month. Its loved for the wonderful perfect weather most days and breeze. Its not too hot or cold.  Its perfectly spring. May is so awesome to get married  that I even chose it for myself when I got married ( it just so happened we got engaged the previous year in May, so we chose a date 3 days from our engagement date.) .  

I get asked often from newly engaged ladies about wedding planning, and so on. I do my best to offer my advice, so I thought why not officially offer to the masses? 

I came down to 5 MUST DO's that every couple should do to start wedding planning. These are more common sense but you would be surprised on how many ladies didn't realize these tips!

1. PICK A DATE: This is the most important, every vendor that you come across will ask  when your date is and believe it or not your prices and even what is available ( food, flowers, venues) greatly depend on your date. So before you do anything else CHOOSE A DATE. Plus when you announce your engagement to family and friends this is the very first question that comes out of their mouth! 

2. PICK A VENUE: This is another important thing beside picking your date.  Again this is another thing that will be needed and asked constantly when you talk with other vendors.  I would suggest picking your venue BEFORE choosing your caterer, WHY? because believe it or not many venues either have their own catering vendor, on staff catering or preferred catering that have exclusive contracts with them. Our venue allowed outside caterers yet our caterer had to submit documentation to be cleared by the venue.  This is also where your date comes in, you will have to narrow down venues based on your date and what is available. 

3. GET A BUDGET & STICK TO IT: I know this is hard and will be hard to stick to, believe me.  I dont suggest getting loans or becoming broke for a wedding. There are many ways you can research to have a less costly wedding yet it be beautiful. We became blessed as we had family members pay for aspects of our wedding. So family is great if they can help.  Venue, Catering and Flowers are your most expensive things when it comes to a wedding.  I would suggest being realistic with your budget an focusing on these things first,  Dont get caught up in the hype either when it comes to having unnecessary things in your wedding, many of those Pinterest ideas and diys, etc are money suckers. AND some are money savers, , example: I chose NOT to do wedding favors as I felt they were a waste of time and money, also from experience many people throw away favors unless its something edible, the great thing is no one even noticed or said anything about the non existent wedding favors! 

4. USE WEDDING SITES LIKE WEDDING WIRE OR THE KNOT:  I have this as a must because its such a great resource, I found my  wedding day coordinator on weddingwire as well as our caterer. I personally  prefer weddingwire.com , you can make a free wedding website ( the knot offers this too but I find the knot kind of janky looking- personal preference) , they have reviews of vendors along with tips and forums of other bride to be's. This is such a great resource, if your vendor is on wedding wire you can leave reviews on them after the wedding and get a free gift. Mine was a awesome coupon for shutterfly where I got a great deal on our wedding album I made. 

5. USE A WEDDING PLANNER OR A WEDDING DAY COORDINATOR:: Only use this if your budget will allow, but honestly I HIGHLY suggest you make room for this in your budget.  What is the difference between the 2 you ask? A wedding planner is someone who is with you throughout the WHOLE process of  the wedding planning from day 1 to wedding day. She/He is your miracle worker, she deals with the brunt of the stress for you and does all the dirty work. a wedding day coordinator is a wedding planner ( many offer both services)  who swoops in on your wedding day and takes all your stress away and handles and manages your day. You and your soon to be hubs can focus on getting ready and enjoying your day and dont sweat the hullabaloo.  The hubs and I got a wedding day coordinator at the insistence of our pastor, BEST DECISION EVER. We didn't have enough in our budget to hire her for our whole process but as a wedding day coordinator she swooped in  on the month of our wedding and took over everything and handled it, she took all out stress away and on our wedding day this bride wasn't stressed or worried about a thing. She was seriously amazing, not to mention she was Nigerian so she really understood what my husbands family expected . 

****MOST IMPORTANT TIP OF ALL

ENJOY YOUR WEDDING PLANNING PROCESS! Its such a wonderful , exciting and yes stressful season before the wedding , but you will always remember it and its unforgettable.  You will remember how it all came together for your special day. 

Love these tips? Let me what you would like to see next for the series #weddingsinmay 

Anti- Social Media a GOOD THING?

Sitting on my couch waiting for my bread dough to rise and just letting the beautiful sun shine through my living room, I remember how for the past several days I haven't even bothered on social media. And you know what? YES I am still alive and I have been perfectly fine and content without checking Instagram and etc. 

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Now many of us make our living on the web and our followers are essential and we need to constantly keep up with followers and social media and our presence. Yet some days you just don't feel like it and some days your mind is so on other things dealing with people, pinning, posting, tweeting can seem like a dreaded chore.  

Sometimes you need to step away, you need to "unplug" from the web and go take a drive, go for ice cream, just sip on a glass of wine and sit in the sun or watch the sunset, interact with your spouse or children,bake fresh bread!  The point is there are so many things you can do beside looking down on a screen.  

At the end of the day Facebook is just Facebook, Twitter is just Twitter and Instagram is just Instagram. They cant make precious wonderful moments like playing with your little one, like going on a drive with your love or getting hands all dirty in dirt or flour when baking. They can't replace friendships, marriages and children. 

I'm not saying it all bad, social media has so many good things thats not what I am bashing here, I'm not actually bashing anything. I'm just saying...... Don't you ever get tired of looking at other peoples status and getting jealous or annoyed or comparing your life to others? Sigh.... I digress  

 

I'm just saying enjoy life......bake some bread... Its freaking amazing and delicious and you would be so proud of yourself . 😂 seriously...  Enjoy Life!  

Lovatics by Demi & New York Color

A girl who loves beauty and makeup will always remember  her first makeup brand that she bought and her experiences.  New York Color was that brand for me. I remember in my high school years how I would use the foundation and mascara and lip gloss and experiment with applying makeup and I loved the brand because it was very affordable for my budget .

So when  I was contacted about the new line in collaboration with singer / actress Demi Lovato I was excited to try. 

I was sent the Natural eye shadow palette and the mascara.Each item retails for about $4.99 and can be bought wherever NYC makeup is sold .

The Natural palette is the perfect palette to wear everyday and That is about the truth for me.  I love intermixing the colors and playing with nice everyday looks for work. The colors have good pigmentation and blend easily as well as last all day with no problem. 

The mascara is a clear fave with me, it has a huge brush and the formula is nice.  Its nit runny and doesn't clump, I dont even notice any flakes.  I love how it really opens my eyes and completes my eye look. 

These are 2 great everyday products for the price of about $10 bucks and they actually work How about that!

 

Have you beauties seen this line and gotten any goodies?  

Is the Kardashian "style braids" actually something new?

You know I get that the Kardashians are big aand mainstream and so many females want to be them and many guys want to be with them. Evryone also has thier opinion on the Kardashians and you know it is what it is. 

Now what I am about to say really has nothing to do with them, I feel like they liked a style and when they wore it, the media took it and ran. 

I am talking about the "Boxer braids" , this braiding style has taken off with the media sinc ethe Kardashians wore it.  Yet this post below kind of pissed me off. 

Im sorry .... when did braids JUST NOW become a hot style?  Oh since the Kardashian clan came about? This is the issue when it comes to the black community, things that have been used or done by blacks for YEARS for CENTURIES  never get much attention, yet when someone outside of the community like the Kardashian for example all of sudden its "new" and "in style" . WHY IS THAT?

Why is it okay for media and etc to take things from a culture and decide its cool and hot?  Why do we allow this?  Yes race does play a lot in this conversation, sadly but how does it not? I must admit it gets really annoying when I see things like this.  Talk about culture appropriation. 

Why are things from minority cultures picked and put into pretty little packages  to look new ?

I digress, yet i just ask that many simply look into and learn different cultures , media is all about manipulation and we must remember that. 

I loved this article by Danielle Clark on Hello Beautiful , I feel her article really sums up what is happening and what the whole issue is. 

What are your thoughts?